Leading with Kindness: A Career Growth Strategy for Any Profession
“Leading with kindness” can seem like empty rhetoric, but it is how I try to live my professional, personal, and political life. Everyone believes in the value of kindness, yet without intentionality, it can easily take a backseat to the pressures of ambition, deadlines, and competition. True leadership, however, isn’t just about being tough or decisive—it’s about fostering an environment where people feel valued, heard, and motivated to succeed together.
“It’s Addition, Not Subtraction, Ryan.”
I’ve had the privilege of learning from incredible mentors throughout my life. One particular lesson has stayed with me since my early career. While working as a campaign manager in a Cambridge City Council race, my boss gave me a simple but profound piece of advice: “It’s about addition, not subtraction.”
At the time, I was most likely so focused on winning and outmaneuvering the competition that I wasn’t thinking enough about coalition-building. My mentor reminded me that leadership isn’t about tearing others down—it’s about bringing more people in, making space for new voices, and creating a movement that others want to be part of. That wisdom applies far beyond politics; in any industry, professionals who build relationships, uplift their colleagues and even their competition sometimes, and prioritize collaboration ultimately rise higher than those who lead with division.
Kindness as a Career Advantage
There’s a misconception that kindness is a weakness in leadership. In reality, it’s an advantage. Leaders who practice kindness foster loyalty, increase productivity, and cultivate stronger professional networks. Studies have shown that workplaces with a culture of kindness experience higher employee satisfaction and lower turnover. More importantly, people naturally gravitate toward leaders who treat them with respect and authenticity.
Wisdom on kindness from an unexpected source: Alexander the Great
"Whatever possession we gain by our sword cannot be sure or lasting, but the love gained by kindness and moderation is certain and durable."
This quote from Alexander the Great serves as a powerful reminder that true influence isn’t built through force or intimidation—it’s earned through relationships and trust. The same applies to our careers. You may land a promotion by outshining a competitor, but long-term success comes from the respect and goodwill you build along the way.
Another great leader I had the pleasure of working for and learning from is former Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick and he embodied this line of attack by Alexander the Great. Physically short in stature, calm in demeanor and soft in his words I would watch as the larger than life, bellowing and backslapping longtime professional politicians are the other side of an issue try to physically “big-time” him in public but when it came to the behind the scenes political and legislative battles the Governor would more oft than not end up on top because he focused on winning key players and the people of Massachusetts hearts and minds through kindness and moderation.
The Ripple Effect of Small Acts of Kindness
Kindness doesn’t always have to be a grand gesture. Sometimes, a simple act—a kind word, a sincere thank you, or checking in on someone during a difficult time—can have a profound and lasting effect. These small moments create connections, build trust, and leave an impression that people remember long after the moment has passed.
Professionally, these gestures are investments. You never know when the intern you mentored, the colleague you encouraged, or the competitor you treated with respect will be in a position to help you down the road. People want to work with and support those who have shown them kindness. I’ve seen this come back 100-fold in my own career—unexpected opportunities, valuable introductions, and critical support have often come from people I once took a moment to uplift.
The reality is, business, politics, and leadership are all built on relationships. And relationships are strengthened not by power plays, but by empathy, respect, and generosity.
A Challenge to Lead with Kindness
As young professionals, we have the opportunity to redefine leadership for the next generation. Whether you’re managing a team, running a business, or starting out in your field, I challenge you to lead with kindness. Be intentional about uplifting others, approach challenges with empathy, and remember that success is about addition, not subtraction.
In the long run, kindness isn’t just the right thing to do—it’s the smartest career strategy you can choose.
By: Ryan McCollum
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